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Hi Sarah, that’s a really interesting question! I’ll answer your second question first. This is called “allogrooming”, and it’s a very common—and normal—bonding behavior that cats engage in with their friends and family members. It means your cat likes you! To the first question, does your more timid cat have a cat tree or any other elevated platform in the living room/room with the couch? I think if you can include an elevated platform like a tree or cat shelves in that family area, your cat will feel more comfortable joining the family). Once they’re comfortable sitting and watching the family from above, they may start to feel more comfortable joining you on the couch, but it might take time.

Also, the alpha loves to sit behind me and “groom” my hair, pulling out the strands and licking my head and face. Do we know if that behavior means anything?